If something bad happens in your life, how do you explain it? “Such is life...” “Dang it, why was I such an idiot....” “Dang it, why was that person such an idiot...” or the good ole stand by of shaking your fist in the air? What really chaps my hide, or really bugs me, is when someone says "It’s a blessing in disguise." Really? A blessing? No, I don't think so. Something bad happening is never a blessing. Ever.
And now on to my soap box:
Things happen in life. Bad things happen to good people. Good people do bad things. Life just sometimes happens. But why do some people call the bad times a blessing? um, so you're saying that I should thank someone or some higher power for tragedy, strife and/or heartache? No, I’m not buying it. We live in a culture of "dog eat dog" and "survival of the fittest." So when something bad happens, you don’t just go stagnate and say thanks, you adjust your life accordingly and venture down a new path. We all hope that the new path will bring us luck and happiness, and often times it does, but that is no reason to count your pits as blessings. I don’t think I will ever look back on my hard times and say "gee I am so glad I went through that because it got me this and that." No, I had to pick myself up, deal with emotions that I never wanted to deal with, and then begin to look for a better tomorrow down other avenues. Who is to say that if tragedy didn’t strike that I wouldn’t be where I am now or know the people I know today. If there really is a master plan and we are all just walking down a predetermined path, then really, nothing is a blessing, it is just life.
I had a job in LA that I hated. I had been there for 2.5 years and couldn't stand to work there another day. But I bit the bullet and dealt with the bureaucracy and the bs but I was also looking for another job. They called me in on a Thursday and "let me go." I already had 3 interviews lined up for the next day and had planned on taking the day off to go to them but I refuse to think of that example as a blessing in disguise because I would have never left that job without having one lined up. Plus I didn't get any of those jobs and I am still recovering; I had to adjust my life accordingly and make the best out of a bad situation. What I do count as blessings are my amazing family who took me in with open arms, support and unconditional love; my good friends who stood by me and provided an ear and a shoulder; and that I am healthy and happy.
Maybe it is just an everyday cliche that people say to make the hard times seem better, I mean there are so many ("what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger" is another doozy) and it is so easy to get caught in a self-indulged pity party. And maybe we do need some kind of rationale that will help bring us out of the doom and gloom and into the light for the sake of our sanity. I have no idea. All I know is that things in life have happened. Some good, some bad, some I caused, some other people had a hand in. I am not going to thank my lucky stars for the tears, the red in my bank account, and the pain. I’ve seen things and felt things that I hope I never experience again and I absolutely do not look back on any of the bad stuff as blessings.
(For background and to see what I have done so far on the 30 Little Things project click here. Also follow Home Sweet Sarah's 30 Things, since I got the idea from her)
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Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Friday, February 4, 2011
30 Little Things: 2: 15 Facts About Me
Not that you want to know 15 boring things about me, I tried to choose unique and somewhat quirky things that I do (some of which, I've been told, drive other people up the wall). So enjoy, and hey, maybe you should tell me something about you.
1. When I deposit mail in the big blue mailboxes I always close the slot then open it again and look to make sure the mail went into the box properly.
2. I think Valentines Day is a ridiculous day/holiday that was created by the Hallmark, Sees Candy and FTD Flower Company's. Plus, there are 364 perfectly good days to do the same cheesy thing without feeling obligated to do it. Don't get me wrong though, if someone shows up with pizza, wine and any of the following: Tiffany, Coach and/or Diamonds; I would be a fool to say no.
3. If I ever have to sit in the backseat of a car, I'll only sit on the passenger side, never behind the driver. I will make people move sides.
4. I have no issues with drinking a bottle of wine in one night. One for me.
5. I back-in to parking spots when able to.
6. I am the worlds biggest klutz. Here are some of the more "memorable" occurrences from the past 4 years: given myself a black-eye with a freezer door; a mild concussion by hitting my head on the refrigerator; fallen out of my car...sober; tore a ligament in my foot walking; trip at least once a day; consistently have 3 or more bruises at any given time; nicknamed Grace; fallen off the treadmill because I was looking at a cute guy walking by and forgot I was running on it.
7. I refuse to eat lima beans and cauliflower. When I was a kid I read a book called Bunnicula (about a vegetarian vampire rabbit who would suck all the juice out of the vegetables in the fridge and turn them white) and ever since I won't eat white vegetables. And I think Lima beans are just plain gross.
8. I had a pet potbelly pig who was a house-pet. Her name was Petunia and she was the best.
9. I hate slow drivers, the Prius (sorry friends who drive one, I just don't like the car) and have a lead foot. Yes Tom Cruise, I have the need for speed.
10. Traveling gives me the worst anxiety. I love to travel but something about it freaks me out. I once went to Puerto Rico and had anxiety attacks for a whole week prior to leaving. Once I get to my destination I'm totally fine, its just getting there that makes me act like a crazy person.
11. I have cold weather turrets. Meaning when I enter cold weather, very unlady like language starts spewing from my mouth and I sound like a common salior, repeatedly. I'm much more of a beach person. I used to tell people that I was allergic to crystalized forms of water and temperatures below 30.
12. I am terrified of snakes, I can't even look at a picture of one. I get the hebegebees just thinking about them. Even right now. Yuck.
13. I hate walnuts and think it is disgusting when people add any kind of nuts to baked goods (brownies, fudge, cookies, cakes, pancakes, etc.) except for peanuts and only in a select few items like snickers or peanut butter cookies or rocky road fudge.
14. I make my bed every morning (even if my room is a trash hole). It keeps your sheets at the perfect temperature when getting back into bed later. If the house is cold, the sheets won't be as cold. And it makes the room look nice. And easier to pile things on top of the bed.
15. I can't watch any of the following: scary movies; bloody-gory movies; movies with constant gunfire; movies with Justin Beiber; zombie movies; and movies/shows about snakes. I'll have terrible nightmares and won't sleep for days. Commercials for scary movies even creep me out. My ex used to say that "If it doesn't play "It's a Small World" in it, she won't like it." Yes, I am a sucker for all things Disney (hey look, that technically is 16 things...I'm such an over achiever).
(For background and to see what I have done so far on the 30 Little Things project click here. Also follow Home Sweet Sarah's 30 Things, since I got the idea from her)
1. When I deposit mail in the big blue mailboxes I always close the slot then open it again and look to make sure the mail went into the box properly.
2. I think Valentines Day is a ridiculous day/holiday that was created by the Hallmark, Sees Candy and FTD Flower Company's. Plus, there are 364 perfectly good days to do the same cheesy thing without feeling obligated to do it. Don't get me wrong though, if someone shows up with pizza, wine and any of the following: Tiffany, Coach and/or Diamonds; I would be a fool to say no.
3. If I ever have to sit in the backseat of a car, I'll only sit on the passenger side, never behind the driver. I will make people move sides.
4. I have no issues with drinking a bottle of wine in one night. One for me.
5. I back-in to parking spots when able to.
6. I am the worlds biggest klutz. Here are some of the more "memorable" occurrences from the past 4 years: given myself a black-eye with a freezer door; a mild concussion by hitting my head on the refrigerator; fallen out of my car...sober; tore a ligament in my foot walking; trip at least once a day; consistently have 3 or more bruises at any given time; nicknamed Grace; fallen off the treadmill because I was looking at a cute guy walking by and forgot I was running on it.
7. I refuse to eat lima beans and cauliflower. When I was a kid I read a book called Bunnicula (about a vegetarian vampire rabbit who would suck all the juice out of the vegetables in the fridge and turn them white) and ever since I won't eat white vegetables. And I think Lima beans are just plain gross.
8. I had a pet potbelly pig who was a house-pet. Her name was Petunia and she was the best.
9. I hate slow drivers, the Prius (sorry friends who drive one, I just don't like the car) and have a lead foot. Yes Tom Cruise, I have the need for speed.
10. Traveling gives me the worst anxiety. I love to travel but something about it freaks me out. I once went to Puerto Rico and had anxiety attacks for a whole week prior to leaving. Once I get to my destination I'm totally fine, its just getting there that makes me act like a crazy person.
11. I have cold weather turrets. Meaning when I enter cold weather, very unlady like language starts spewing from my mouth and I sound like a common salior, repeatedly. I'm much more of a beach person. I used to tell people that I was allergic to crystalized forms of water and temperatures below 30.
12. I am terrified of snakes, I can't even look at a picture of one. I get the hebegebees just thinking about them. Even right now. Yuck.
13. I hate walnuts and think it is disgusting when people add any kind of nuts to baked goods (brownies, fudge, cookies, cakes, pancakes, etc.) except for peanuts and only in a select few items like snickers or peanut butter cookies or rocky road fudge.
14. I make my bed every morning (even if my room is a trash hole). It keeps your sheets at the perfect temperature when getting back into bed later. If the house is cold, the sheets won't be as cold. And it makes the room look nice. And easier to pile things on top of the bed.
15. I can't watch any of the following: scary movies; bloody-gory movies; movies with constant gunfire; movies with Justin Beiber; zombie movies; and movies/shows about snakes. I'll have terrible nightmares and won't sleep for days. Commercials for scary movies even creep me out. My ex used to say that "If it doesn't play "It's a Small World" in it, she won't like it." Yes, I am a sucker for all things Disney (hey look, that technically is 16 things...I'm such an over achiever).
(For background and to see what I have done so far on the 30 Little Things project click here. Also follow Home Sweet Sarah's 30 Things, since I got the idea from her)
Monday, January 31, 2011
30 Little Things: 1: A photo from my childhood
I know it said one, but I decided to give you 4. I think these pictures are funny because they still represent who I am today: mischievous, bratty, a princess, and can still have quite a phone conversation (minus the Raiders jacket...still mad at my parents for that fashion flaw).
And yes, that is a cast on my head. When I was a wee one, my ears looked like Alfalfa’s and it caused really bad ear infections. So the doctors did something and another thing to push my ears back and I can home looking like that.
The “you’re a complete brat” picture could only rival that video from Christmas with the kid saying that books aren’t presents. Apparently I felt that way about board games, or I was giving my father a “don’t take my picture” face. It’s still up for debate.
(For background and to see what I have done so far on the 30 Little Things project click here. Also follow Home Sweet Sarah's 30 Things, since I got the idea from her)
30 Little Things (a Bandwagon Project)
Being new to this whole blogging thing and needing some fun ideas to write about, I really liked this blog idea that my twitter friend homesweetsarah posted and I decided to jump on her bandwagon, which was also a bandwagon she jumped on, and tackle these 30 prompts.
Now it would be a remarkable feat for me to knock one out a day for 30 days, but let’s face the facts: I have park people watching, train adventures, reality televison and dating to tend to as well, so who knows how long it will take. Plus, if I have a “deadline” I will be more inclined to procrastinate until 1 week before said deadline and then inundate everyone with 30 mindless and quickly drafted posts.
If anyone has an idea for #30, send it my way! So for your forthcoming enjoyment, here are the prompts, to be posted in any order of my choosing:
1.Your work space
2.The best part of your day
3.Something you refuse to do
4.Last book you read
5.Meaning behind your blog name
6.Talent you wish you had
7.A photo of you without makeup
8.Last item you purchased
9.Something that makes you sad
10.15 facts about you
11.Your favorite thing right now
12.Best Christmas present you ever got
13.Your favorite teacher
14.Something you’re thankful for
15.A photo from your childhood
16.Something you crave
17.Your worst hair moment
18.Favorite smells
19.Last time you cried
20.Last time you had to apologize to someone
21.Something that scares you
22.Something that really bugs you
23.What you dislike most about your appearance
24.Celebrity crush
25.A trait you deplore in others
26.A photo taken 10 years ago
27.First book/movie/song that moved you
28.What turns you off
29.The story behind one of your scars
30.This one was left blank, so how about you pick it...
Now it would be a remarkable feat for me to knock one out a day for 30 days, but let’s face the facts: I have park people watching, train adventures, reality televison and dating to tend to as well, so who knows how long it will take. Plus, if I have a “deadline” I will be more inclined to procrastinate until 1 week before said deadline and then inundate everyone with 30 mindless and quickly drafted posts.
If anyone has an idea for #30, send it my way! So for your forthcoming enjoyment, here are the prompts, to be posted in any order of my choosing:
1.Your work space
2.The best part of your day
3.Something you refuse to do
4.Last book you read
5.Meaning behind your blog name
6.Talent you wish you had
7.A photo of you without makeup
8.Last item you purchased
9.Something that makes you sad
10.15 facts about you
11.Your favorite thing right now
12.Best Christmas present you ever got
13.Your favorite teacher
14.Something you’re thankful for
15.A photo from your childhood
16.Something you crave
17.Your worst hair moment
18.Favorite smells
19.Last time you cried
20.Last time you had to apologize to someone
21.Something that scares you
22.Something that really bugs you
23.What you dislike most about your appearance
24.Celebrity crush
25.A trait you deplore in others
26.A photo taken 10 years ago
27.First book/movie/song that moved you
28.What turns you off
29.The story behind one of your scars
30.This one was left blank, so how about you pick it...
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